Mourning the Death of a Mother: Strategies for Daughters to Cope Effectively
In the aftermath of losing a mother, it's essential to understand that help is readily available when dealing with overwhelming grief. Resources such as the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, Crisis Text Line, or Befrienders Worldwide are there for those considering self-harm or suicide.
Losing a mother can place immense strain on family relationships. This loss also signifies the disappearance of an important part of your support system. Grief, unfortunately, can have far-reaching effects on one's health, increasing the chances of cancer, cardiac issues, immune disorders, and high blood pressure, according to a study.
For daughters, the loss may be particularly challenging due to the unique forms of grief experienced. This includes cultural and tradition losses, a lack of maternal guidance, and the emotional closeness of mother-daughter relationships. Daughters may feel a deeper emotional loss and disruption in their sense of security and attachment, leading to more profound psychological consequences.
The grieving process can also impact daily functioning, with grief persisting for more than a year potentially requiring the support of a mental health professional. Studies have shown that parental loss can lead to depression and a compromised sense of self in young adults.
Remember, it's okay to seek help. The American Psychological Association's Psychologist Locator can help find a professional who specializes in grief recovery. Mindfulness, focusing on the moment and not following thoughts down an emotional path, can help manage painful memories related to the loss of a mother.
Honoring a mother's memory can take many forms, from donating to her favourite charity to achieving a personal goal she always wanted. Support can also come from various figures, not just blood relatives. Offering maternal support to others who have experienced parental loss can be a meaningful way to cope with grief.
Local support groups, online chat forums, and mental health professionals can provide assistance during the grieving process. Books such as "Healing After the Loss of Your Mother", "Motherless Daughters", and "How to Survive the Loss of a Parent" may also provide guidance.
Lastly, it's important to remember that the emotions experienced during the year following parental loss, such as regret, remorse, anxiety, guilt, emptiness, rage, anger, sadness, and numbness, are normal. If you're feeling lost or overwhelmed, know that you're not alone, and help is available.
