Individuals Nurtured with Strict Discipline Find Interactions Frustrating
In today's world, it's not uncommon to encounter individuals who exhibit behaviours that can be draining and emotionally taxing. These behaviours, such as a lack of empathy, judgment, and accountability, can have a significant impact on our mental health and relationships.
According to a study published in Personality and Individual Differences, the more one judges others, the worse their mental health and general wellbeing can become. This finding underscores the importance of empathy and understanding in our interactions with others.
People who were raised with strong values, often referred to as being "raised right," may find certain behaviours exhausting as they clash with their learned social norms and expectations. These behaviours, such as a lack of basic manners, failure to take responsibility, superficiality, unreliability, or monopolizing conversations, can cause emotional and mental fatigue.
Emotional exhaustion can also stem from compassion fatigue or general burnout, making it hard for individuals to invest emotional energy in difficult social situations or people who do not meet their standards of kindness or accountability. Social anxiety or discomfort, due to a lack of earlier healthy guidance, can also lead to sensitivity to certain social behaviours perceived as chaotic or inappropriate.
Anxiety-related tiredness, where the mental effort to cope with stress or worry increases fatigue, can also make tolerating frustrating social behaviours more difficult. The mismatch between expected norms, such as politeness and reliability, and observed behaviours can lead to frustration and emotional depletion during interactions.
Trauma dumpers, who overwhelming others with their personal issues in the wrong social situations and with people they don't know well, can sabotage their ability to form deeper connections. Fake positivity, which suppresses true emotions and disregards habits that cultivate authenticity and security, is detrimental to healthy and secure relationships.
Dishonesty can also hurt people's capacity for social awareness and is one of the things people who were raised right find exhausting to be around. Fake kindness, according to psychologist Mark Travers, can have similar effects.
On the other hand, emotionally intelligent people often grew up in a household where they were celebrated for speaking their mind and expressing their emotions, even if they were complex or uncomfortable. This upbringing can help them handle difficult social situations with ease and grace, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
In conclusion, the exhaustion arises from the cognitive dissonance and emotional strain of managing expectations formed by a stable, respectful upbringing when faced with behaviours perceived as rude, irresponsible, or emotionally taxing in others. It's crucial to be aware of these behaviours and strive for empathy, understanding, and authenticity in our interactions with others to maintain our mental health and foster healthier relationships.
- Many mental health and relationship issues can be attributed to behaviors that lack empathy, judgment, and accountability, as demonstrated by studies in the field of psychology.
- People who were raised with strong values may find certain behaviors exhausting, as they clash with their learned social norms and expectations, contributing to mental fatigue.
- Emotional exhaustion can stem from compassion fatigue, social anxiety, or anxiety-related tiredness, making it hard for individuals to cope with difficult social situations or people who do not meet their standards of kindness or accountability.
- Inappropriate social behaviors, such as dishonesty, trauma dumping, fake positivity, and fake kindness, can sabotage a person's ability to form deeper connections and hurt their capacity for social awareness.
- In contrast, emotionally intelligent people, who had upbringings that celebrated open communication and emotional expression, can handle difficult social situations with ease and grace, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
- To maintain mental health and form healthier relationships, it is essential to be aware of behaviors that are emotionally taxing, strive for empathy, understanding, and authenticity in our interactions, and work towards a healthier and more secure lifestyle in our relationships and family.
