Deepest Human Malady: "I'm not enough"

Deepest Human Malady: "I'm not enough"

We've all had moments (yeah, days), when we feel like we're not our best selves, like we've failed somehow. Our trust in ourselves falters, and we wonder why we even doubt ourselves in the first place.

It happens to us all. Even celebrities and business tycoons of billion-dollar companies.

What's interesting is that all our self-doubts are rooted in one thing. Marisa Peer talks about this in her A-Fest speech.

Marisa is an outstanding and revolutionary individual (and I bet you've seen a few). She's not just a best-selling author and a life-changing motivational speaker, but she was also named the UK's top therapist and the best speaker at the A-Fest by our website.

Over the years, she has worked with some of the world's best celebrities, athletes, business leaders, and even members of the royal family.

I guess you're thinking, "She must be different..."

And she is. People go for months to a therapist without making progress, sometimes even with negative changes. When Marisa Peer meets with a client, she transforms their life in just a few minutes.

So, yeah, we could call her brilliant and unconventional.

Unlike many therapists who focus on the complexities of the mind and its complications, trying to diagnose one problem after another, Marisa Peer concentrates on the root principles of the mind. Moreover, she delves into the root of the problem and heals people without medication – a lifelong mission.

In this highly transformative and profoundly engaging A-Fest speech, Marisa Peer discusses these fundamental principles of the mind and the simple cause for humanity's biggest problems in clear, relatable language, using deeply moving stories.

Issues like obsessive-compulsive disorder, obesity, manic depression, bipolar disorder, separation, anger ... all these and much more can be healed ... Not with any pills (that only mask symptoms), but through understanding the root cause of the problem.

Since Marisa Peer is passionately determined to get to the heart of the matter, she believes that dwelling on feelings is a waste of time. Her view: "Stop being so bloody neurotic! Focus directly on what's not working for you. It doesn't matter how you feel – you think you're not enough!"

And there you have it, the common denominator for most of our problems – we don't feel like we're enough: smart enough, pretty enough, talented enough, wealthy enough, lovable enough... You know what I mean.

Transforming the world is a huge task, but I want to change people. The way to change them is to give them the feeling that they're enough. - Marisa Peer

Instead of prescribing laboratory-made chemicals to nourish the brain every day, Marisa Peer feeds it with three magic words:

I am enough.

Exactly. That's all you really need to understand – that you are enough. This is the healing for almost all our emotional problems.

Besides these three magic words, Marisa Peer wants us all to understand three simple principles about the mind:

1. Your Mind Loves the Familiar.
2. Your Mind Reacts to What You Tell It.
3. You Can Change What You Tell Your Mind!

1 - Your Mind Loves the Familiar

This ability to love and instinctively seek familiarity comes from our primitive days; biologically speaking, it makes sense. But when it comes to making changes in our lives, this instinct doesn't help, right?

We simply need to learn how to retrain our minds to make the unknown familiar and the familiar unfamiliar. Even though this might sound confusing, it's actually quite simple: Focus your attention on the person you want to become.

Tell yourself a new story about yourself – a story of the person you want to become.

Every time you feel like those negative, familiar thoughts are trying to creep in, redirect them to the person you are becoming – not the person you used to be.

Before you know it, these new thoughts will become a habit and feel familiar because our brain loves habits and seeks familiarity.

Marisa Peer uses the example of people trying to diet. She says that people put in a great deal of effort and training to lose weight! But as soon as they weigh themselves, they celebrate with ... pizza.

Why? Because they know pizza. In this case, we need to train our brain not to think of the familiar (pizza), but to think about how good we'll look when we're thin – how good it will feel in our bodies. We need to start thinking about how tasty healthy foods are; how much we love the feeling of being thin and taking care of our bodies.

As soon as this changed way of thinking becomes a habit, our brain says, "Oh, I see," and this unfamiliar habit of eating healthily becomes familiar. And the familiar habit of eating unhealthily becomes unfamiliar.

2 - Your Mind Reacts to What You Tell It

With this principle, Marisa Peer reportedly helps infertile women in their 40s conceive. Yes, you read that correctly.

All she does is understand these simple principles of the mind – when you tell your mind you're infertile and that you can't have babies, it becomes so. Do the opposite, and that will also be the case.

All you need is the right "mantra."

It can be wondrous or terrifying. Good or bad, your mind listens to what you tell it. If you say you're bad at something, your mind accepts it. If you say you're phenomenal at something, your mind accepts that too.

Pay attention to your internal dialog and start feeding your mind messages that serve you and propel you forward.

When your inner critic starts doubting, simply redirect it to something it can believe in. For instance, I will become more confident every day.

3 - You Can Change What You Tell Your Mind

Here you're in control. You're responsible for what you tell your mind ... You can tell it anything you want!

Did you know that what typically makes us feel the most depressed is our own self-dialogue – our own self-criticism? And unfortunately, we tend to reject compliments more often and accept criticism more readily. But wait – wasn't criticism more familiar to us?

But wait – praise is much more effective than praise from others! How often have you argued when you've received a compliment, because you didn't believe it? It's so important to praise yourself with things like:

• I am a good daughter/son
• I am smart
• I am a lovable and admirable friend
• I am impressive
• I am brave, bold, and creative.

But don't forget to also tell yourself (and really believe it):

I am enough. I was always enough. Now that I know I am enough, everyone else will too. I will always be enough. - Marisa Peer

If you start putting these three principles into practice and understanding them, Marisa Peer says you must always do three things:

1. Make everything negative unfamiliar.
2. Make everything positive familiar.
3. Use the words "I am enough" as often as possible (write them everywhere!).

She explains it in her A-Fest speech.

And remember, you are always, always, always enough.

Join the movement and write it on your mirror, so you can see it every day. Share a photo with us on Instagram with #IamEnough.

If you had a magic wand that could change your own faith in some way, what would you use it for? Share it with us in a comment!

Enrichment Data:

Overall:

Marisa Peer, in her A-Fest speech, discusses three key principles about understanding the mind that contribute significantly to emotional healing:

1. Words Are Commands to the Subconscious
   Marisa emphasizes that the words we say to ourselves and others act as direct commands to our subconscious mind. These words shape our beliefs and impact our emotional and physical health profoundly. Negative internal dialogue can embed trauma in the body, whereas positive, empowering words can initiate healing and transformation[2].
2. Emotional Trauma Embeds in the Body
   She explains that emotional trauma is not just a mental issue but also a physical one. Traumas are stored in the body, affecting health and well-being. Recognizing this connection is crucial because healing involves addressing both mind and body together, not just through intellectual understanding but also emotional release and physical care[2].
3. Shifting Internal Dialogue Can Restructure Health on a Quantum Level
   Marisa describes how changing the narrative we hold internally—our core beliefs and self-talk—can "reprogram" the brain and body, essentially restructuring health and emotional status on a fundamental level. This principle underscores the power of belief and conscious mental reprogramming in achieving rapid and lasting emotional healing[2].

Together, these principles contribute to emotional healing by highlighting the mind-body connection, the importance of positive and conscious self-communication, and the transformative power of reprogramming subconscious beliefs. They provide a framework that recognizes the deep influence of language and belief systems on emotional and physical health, opening pathways for rapid therapeutic interventions such as Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), which Marisa Peer developed and advocates[2].

• Marisa Peer, a renowned therapist and author, addresses the root of many emotional problems in her A-Fest speech – the belief that we're not enough, damaging our mental health and well-being.
• In healing, understanding the mind is vital. According to Marisa, three simple principles about the mind can transform our emotions and overall health: 1) Our minds love familiarity, 2) our minds react to what we tell them, and 3) we can change what we tell our minds.

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